Sunday, February 7, 2010

What can i do to stop ex's family from filling false reports of child abuse when they admitted doing it?

My ex's family, over the course of a year, has filed 5 reports of child abuse/neglect with the department of children and families, accusing me of everything from drug addiction to making my son sleep on the floor (none of which is true), I know it is next to impossible to prove that someone knowingly made a false report, but in this case, they were bold enough to go into my custody hearing and say on the stand that they made the reports, ';not out of any real concern for you or your parenting, we aren't worried about your child's well being, we just sort of needed to make the reports as a method of coercion'; (im not making this up, those were their exact words) and those statements were put on the record, so I have that admission in writing. Is there anything I can do about it? I am afraid they will just keep doing this...and if there is something I can do, how do I go about doing it?What can i do to stop ex's family from filling false reports of child abuse when they admitted doing it?
you can file a restraining order stating that they are using police/government as a form of harassment. Transcripts of the custody hearing and all documentation may strengthen your need for the order.What can i do to stop ex's family from filling false reports of child abuse when they admitted doing it?
You can't make them stop filing the reports. However, some states have made filing false police reports a crime. If such is the case where you are and you have the admission in the court records, charging and convicting them should be easy.
You have the transcripts?


Sue them for harassment. What they are doing is malicious and on purpose. They are also using a government agency to do their dirty work....
I'd sue them for harassment! Talk to an attorney!
';I know it is next to impossible to prove that someone knowingly made a false report';





why woudl you say that? If allegations are demonstrably untrue, then you have proven that they were made knowingly false. This can be difficult, but is not inherently impossible.





';so I have that admission in writing.';





Ummm, you may want to look over your admission, because it only states what their principle motive was. It does suggest that the allegations they've made are untrue, but does not explicitly say this.





Also, you suggest (but again do not say) that allegations of your ex's family are the only source for the information.
Here's the thing...although your ex's folks sound like crazy people, I suspect that they will continue to do this sort of thing. The problem is that there is not a lot of interaction among agencies. If they file a report with DCF, the court nor police have interaction with DCF to see that this is a frivolous claim. So the agencies all go into the situation like it is a real harmful situation for the child. (You'd think that after awhile everyone would 'catch on' but they don't!)





There is little that you can do yourself about this. If the Ex's keep filing reports, you just have to respond. I would suggest that you talk to a good family law attorney. He/she should be able to advise you on a course of action to head off the Ex's complaints. This may be a restraining order against the Ex-family or perhaps a lawsuit. You and your attorney need to just make them go away!





Now, on your side...are you keeping the grandkids from seeing your Ex's family? If so, maybe just giving a little in that area may placate them and they will stop filing the complaints about you.





I don't know why some adults act the way they do. In my own family, I have an extended family situation where a 10 year old girl is transported 200 miles every other weekend between homes. She is supposed to arrive at both destinations at 6:00 PM. If the transporting family is 5 minutes late bringing her either way, the other person calls 911 that she has been kidnapped and an APB is put out! (After five years of this, you'd think that the police would 'catch on' that this is just silly stuff! But no!)





Let's all just grow up!

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